The Passion Paradox: When You Feel Miles Apart and Still Love Each Other

The Passion Paradox is a wonderful guide for couples to find the sweet spot between passion and joyful comfort. We get to explore the corners of our psyches that we often hide from our partners due to confusion, vulnerability, or fear of losing them. Dr. Chalmer shares stories that we can relate to, and exercises that help us open up these potential sore points gently so that we can look at them in kindness and find the intimacy that we are truly looking for. 

Dr. Chalmer's book The Passion Paradox offers a way forward for people who are stuck in painful relationship limbo. Whether you're reeling from an affair, struggling with intimacy issues, or have simply grown apart, Dr. Chalmer guides you to take stock, learn the skills you need, and move forward, whether that means staying together or splitting up. I recommend this book for individuals, couples, and the people who are helping them heal. 

Dr. Chalmer's book The Passion Paradox provides an immensely helpful approach to re-viewing one's relationship. His workbook's ideas and exercises rest on the essential dignity of each person in a relationship, and his compassion, wit, and embracing of human imperfection underwrite this exceptionally useful, practical, growth-supporting workbook. What a wonderful contribution to our field!

The Passion Paradox is a must read for both clinicians and couples alike who are working to improve relationships. Dr. Chalmer provides examples of problematic interactions couples often find themselves in followed by exercises designed to facilitate change. The book is also very accessible to a variety of audiences and I highly recommend it.

Bravo! Dr. Chalmer's book "Betrayal and Forgiveness" is a clear, easy to read, and relatable book for anyone struggling with these topics. It gives clear guidance to those who have been stung by betrayal, those who have betrayed, and the therapists and coaches who work with them. I highly recommend this book to anyone seeking to understand how to navigate the aftermath of betrayal and for those who yearn to heal.

If you have ever been betrayed, know someone who has been betrayed or have betrayed someone yourself, "Betrayal and Forgiveness"  is an informative and insightful read with relatable examples. This book may very well facilitate a healing path for numerous circumstances and situations. Extremely well written with heart, soul and understanding of the human experience. A must read!!

As always Dr. Chalmer offers up practical advice and solutions to complicated relationship issues. He does so with empathy and insights gained from many years in practice. As someone who had many bumps on the road to finding "the one," I found the guidance in this book [Betrayal and Forgiveness] extremely useful.

After I read a few chapters, my wife and I started reading a bit in this book [Reigniting the Spark] each night and discussing parts that we found meaningful. I quite like his seven word formula: Be Kind, Don’t Panic, and Have Faith. His definition of faith is much broader that what most people give it.

Excellent book [Reigniting the Spark] for anyone struggling with relationship issues. A realistic appraisal of what to expect from counseling and how to approach the thorny problems that come with long term emotional attachments. I particularly like Dr Chausmer's approach to therapy and the realistic assessment of when a good outcome is unlikely -many folks waste valuable time in counseling. The case studies make the book easy to follow and relate to.

Dr. Chalmer, I recently listened to your book on betrayal and forgiveness and it was so impactful on me. I wanted to just take a moment to send you a message and say thank you for your work. I went into the book wanting to get through an immediate issue I was facing in my marriage, but I was not expecting for the book to have so many important lessons on mindfulness, self respect, and empathy. I mean it when I say the book has truly changed my life, it has given me confidence to say that my own feelings are valid, to not have to debate how I feel with others, and how to be more present both in my day-to-day life and in my marriage. I've recommended the book to everybody I know that has faced any kind of similar issue, and told my therapist that she needs to recommend it to anyone that faces a similar issue as well. I'm looking forward to jumping in to the rest of your work as well. I just wanted to let you know that I hope you recognize that your work has had a positive impact on the world, and in this case, it has had a profound impact on this complete stranger.