If you're struggling with one of the hardest relationship questions there is—whether to keep working on the relationship or move on—start with the free video above.

In it, I explain a different way to think about difficult relationship decisions, including the distinction between deal-breakers and growing pains.

The free video introduces the core ideas.  The full course provides a structured process for understanding your situation, exploring your options, and deciding what makes the most sense for you.

Multi-lesson courses such as this one sell for over $100, $200, or more. But I priced this one to be accessible—you can enroll in this course for $69.

And you get a 14-day satisfaction guarantee  (see below for details).

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You Don't Have to Figure This Out Alone

If you're struggling with whether to keep working on your relationship or move on, you're facing one of the most difficult decisions many people ever encounter.

You probably already know there are no simple answers.

If there were, you wouldn't still be wrestling with the decision.

But difficult decisions become even harder when you're trying to make sense of everything on your own.

This course is designed to help you think more clearly about the situation you're facing, so you can move forward with greater clarity and confidence.

About Dr. Bruce Chalmer

Dr. Bruce Chalmer is a psychologist, couples therapist, and author with decades of experience helping individuals and couples navigate intimacy, conflict, betrayal, anxiety, and difficult relationship decisions.

He is the author of:

  • Reigniting the Spark
  • It’s Not About Communication!
  • Betrayal and Forgiveness
  • The Passion Paradox


His work emphasizes emotional clarity, responsibility, honesty, and thoughtful decision-making rather than rigid formulas or quick fixes.

This course draws on the principles of discernment counseling while offering a structured self-paced process you can work through on your own or with your partner.

Interested in working with Dr. Chalmer? Learn more about discernment couples sessions here.


Frequently Asked Questions

  • Is this course therapy?

    No. This is an educational course designed to help you think more clearly about difficult relationship decisions. You might find that doing this course makes therapy more efficient.

  • Can I take this course without my partner?

    Yes. The course is designed to be useful whether or not your partner participates.

  • Will this course tell me whether to stay or leave?

    No. The course guides you through the decision-making process, but the decision remains yours.

  • What if my partner refuses counseling or relationship work?

    The course specifically addresses situations where one partner is reluctant or uncertain about working on the relationship.

  • What if we decide to separate?

    The final chapter offers practical guidance for approaching separation with greater steadiness, dignity, and respect.

  • Do I need to complete the course in one sitting?

    No. The course is self-paced, and you can move through it at whatever speed is helpful to you. You can pause and repeat sections as you wish.

  • Is there a “right” answer at the end of the course?

    Not necessarily. The goal is not perfection or certainty. The goal is greater clarity about what direction makes the most sense for your situation.

Course curriculum

    1. Deal-Breakers or Growing Pains?

    1. Take Stock of Your Relationship

    1. The Decision

    1. How to Move Forward

    1. How to Split Up If You Have To

About this course

  • $69.00
  • 5 lessons
  • 1.5 hours of video content

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14-day Satisfaction Guarantee

I have dedicated my career to helping individuals and couples heal, and I stand behind the clinical integrity of this curriculum. I want you to feel completely secure and supported in your decision to take this step forward.

If you enroll in the course and find that the modules do not help you find clarity or begin calming your emotional turmoil, you are protected by a 14-Day Satisfaction Guarantee.

Simply send an email to [email protected] within 14 days of your initial purchase date requesting a refund. Your enrollment will be canceled, and a 100% full refund will be processed directly back to your original payment method via Thinkific. No awkward questions, and no hassles.