Keep Working On It, or Call It Quits?
If you're struggling with one of the hardest relationship questions there is—whether to keep working on the relationship or move on—start with the free video below.
In it, I'll explain a different way to think about difficult relationship decisions, including the distinction between deal-breakers and growing pains.
The free video introduces the core ideas. The full course provides a structured process for understanding your situation, exploring your options, and deciding what makes the most sense for you.
If you're struggling with whether to keep working on your relationship or move on, you're facing one of the most difficult decisions many people ever encounter.
You probably already know there are no simple answers.
If there were, you wouldn't still be wrestling with the decision.
But difficult decisions become even harder when you're trying to make sense of everything on your own.
This course is designed to help you think more clearly about the situation you're facing, so you can move forward with greater clarity and confidence.
No pressure—just a structured process for understanding your options and deciding what makes the most sense for you.
Dr. Bruce Chalmer is a psychologist, couples therapist, and author with decades of experience helping individuals and couples navigate intimacy, conflict, betrayal, anxiety, and difficult relationship decisions.
He is the author of:
His work emphasizes emotional clarity, responsibility, honesty, and thoughtful decision-making rather than rigid formulas or quick fixes.
This course draws on the principles of discernment counseling while offering a structured self-paced process you can work through on your own or with your partner.
Interested in working with Dr. Chalmer? Learn more about discernment couples sessions here.
No. This is an educational course designed to help you think more clearly about difficult relationship decisions. You might find that doing this course makes therapy more efficient.
Yes. The course is designed to be useful whether or not your partner participates.
No. The course guides you through the decision-making process, but the decision remains yours.
The course specifically addresses situations where one partner is reluctant or uncertain about working on the relationship.
The final chapter offers practical guidance for approaching separation with greater steadiness, dignity, and respect.
No. The course is self-paced, and you can move through it at whatever speed is helpful to you. You can pause and repeat sections as you wish.
Not necessarily. The goal is not perfection or certainty. The goal is greater clarity about what direction makes the most sense for your situation.
You don't have to make a final decision today. But you can begin to understand your situation more clearly.